Have your kids become disconnected, stopped sharing and are generally annoying to be around, and even worse to live with? If they would just follow your rules, make more of an effort in school, and stop spending so much time on screens etc, everything would be okay, right?
Stop relying on controlling your kids and being overly rule-oriented! Instead of parenting from a position of fear, feeling helpless, or being unaware of more effective alternatives, take charge and control what you can by practicing and developing social emotional learning tools around self-awareness, expressing feelings, moods, and empathy. Learn how to mode a common language for communication. Changes in, inconsistent, or poor behavior are about what is happening on your child’s inside not how they are acting on the outside.